This piece is
dedicated to my good friend. I know she won’t want her name mentioned
here but she will definitely be among the first people to read this. Thank you
for the inspiration to write this.
At
different times in life, we expect to move to the next stage; like after
primary school, secondary school, then JAMB, then University, then get a job,
then get married, have children, watch them grow, and live happily ever after
with your family…hmmm!!!
Life
would indeed have been so interesting without waiting for too long at any of
the stages, it’d have been all trilling and bliss etc, but many a time, what
we expect and how we want things to turn out do not always happen the way we
expect. The worst part of the whole thing is that those we think/know we are
better than always get past us along the way. And we wonder why our case was
different. Some would even ask, “God, but why me?” This is a difficult
situation to be believe me, I’ve been there not once and not twice. You’ll feel
inadequate, worthless even suicidal!
First
and foremost, you need to be sincere with yourself. Do you have the criteria to
be in that level you are aspiring for? For example; do you qualify? Do you have
the basic minimum requirements? Is your O’ levels complete? Did you pass the
JAMB cut-off marks? Do you…? You must answer all these questions sincerely and
truthfully within yourself. My pastor will always say “…even if you are
deceiving others, at least don’t deceive yourself”. Don’t try to faith it at
this level! I’m not talking about the discriminatory requirements like getting
a “2.1” from school or being more than “26 years” etc. All the discriminating requirements
can be surmounted trust me!
After
you’ve answered the above questions, if the answers are more of “NOs”, you’ll
need to work on yourself and make sure you get them. But if your answers are “YES”,
then you need to move to the next step. What are you not doing right? There should
be something you are not doing right. Why did you not pass? Find out, read
more, practice more, get somebody to assess you. Is your CV properly written
and arranged? Meet people to help or better still get online help. Why aren’t
you getting the jobs? Is your business proposal properly written and convincing
enough? Get a mentor, someone who has achieved the same thing you are pursuing.
Etc. Check yourself, go out and meet people, ask questions, find out why. Don’t
be lazy. “Good” things don’t happen to lazy people. There should be something
you are not doing right.
If
after the above; meeting basic minimum requirement and blocking any loopholes (if
any), and things don’t change, take this words from my good friend, Zaynab Cynthia
Momoh (facebook page, January 4, 2014 – she’s a cake expert/event planner and she’s
based in Abuja -+2348037342250) “sometimes no matter how hard you try, or how many
precautions you’ve taken, or what you do, things will simply not go your way. This
is why trust and reliance on God are such a necessary part of life”(sic) . You need hardwork, patience, more patience and God.
This is the life. Don't let challenges bring you down and at the end of time, let your story be "I came, I saw and I conquered".
Shalom!
This is the life. Don't let challenges bring you down and at the end of time, let your story be "I came, I saw and I conquered".
Shalom!